Do Not Settle

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Do Not settle. Do You Hear Me? Do. Not. Settle.

Me: “So you’ve been offered the role – congrats! I am so thrilled for you!”

Friend: “Well, it’s not perfect, but I guess it’ll do…”

Me: “….”

Friend: “….”

Me: “Why the heck did you not discuss what would make it fantastic for you with the hiring manager??”

Friend: “Well, they might say “no” or worse, retract the offer!”

Me: [breaks into long rant about the need to work in your zone of genius]


I seriously have these conversations All. The. Damn. Time. 

There is this belief that when we apply for positions, we are at the mercy of the company we are applying at. That asking for better or for something different jeopardises our chance to get the role as we might upset our future employer.

And here’s why that’s problematic:

When the job is not exactly right for you because it’s not quite what you enjoy doing or it doesn’t leverage your magic, you won’t be able do your best work. What is more, when that classic thing happens where the position discussed is just a copy / paste from what the previous previous person in it was doing, without critical thought as to what would really lift the ream to the next level, you won’t be able to have the biggest impact possible. 

And it is just a downward spiral from there, friends. Because you won’t have the impact you crave, you get less enthusiastic and inspired. And so we are back at you not doing your best work. 

Which sucks for you (life’s too short to feel meh, peeps!) and it sucks for the company (I don’t think I need to explain this one, do I?)

Worst case scenario: your career stalls or fizzles out.

What you need to do instead, my friend, is right at the start during the application process, have a CONVERSATION, not an interview.

Work out what the company REALLY needs. And then decide if that is what you want to do and what you’re really good at. In short: clarify during this conversation if there is a great match between the company’s needs and what you are uniquely good at doing. 

If you can create that match: wonderful! You have got your dream job! 

Also, incidentally, you will be able to negotiate a much better offer this way as the role will likely be bigger and more badass and they will use your full skillset.

Going back to that match between what the company needs and what you want to and can do. If it’s not there: wonderful, too! Walk away, knowing you did what is best for all involved.

Let me give you an example of one of my wonderful clients who experienced exactly this path. 

When she first got in touch with this company, they hit if off, saw mutual benefits of working together, but ultimately it wasn’t the right opportunity for both of them. My client confidently walked away, knowing she had made the right decision for the company and importantly: herself. 

Fast forward to a few months later, and the company reached out to her, asking her to talk to them about a perfect fitting role, based on the conversations they had had prior. And with a 30-35% bigger comp package than the original one….

Nice, eh? 

So let me take your beautiful face in my hands and say this again: only take the role if there is a perfect match. Do NOT settle for less.

Contact me if you need help gaining the clarity, confidence and competence to navigate and negotiate your career.


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